Some coaches feel uncomfortable discussing periods because they worry about saying the wrong thing, crossing a boundary or being seen as intrusive.
You do not need personal experience of menstruation to respond well.
Keep it practical
If a swimmer says they are on their period, start with what they need:
"Do you need the toilet, a break, a product or another adult?"
That keeps the conversation within the coaching and welfare role.
Use the word "period"
You do not need euphemisms such as "women's problems" or "that time".
Clear, neutral language often makes the subject less awkward.
At the same time, follow the swimmer's language and do not force them to discuss details.
Do not make gender assumptions
Not everyone who has periods identifies as a girl or woman.
Use the swimmer's name and pronouns, and phrases such as "swimmers who have periods" when general language is needed.
Know your boundaries
Appropriate topics include:
- whether the swimmer needs the toilet;
- whether they feel well enough to continue;
- whether they need a parent, carer or another trusted adult;
- where emergency products or private changing spaces are.
Topics such as sexual activity, contraception or detailed gynaecological symptoms may require a parent, carer, safeguarding lead or healthcare professional, depending on context and the swimmer's age.
One-to-one conversations still need safeguarding awareness
Follow your organisation's safeguarding policy for private conversations with young people.
Privacy does not have to mean secrecy or isolation. A discreet conversation can happen in an appropriate visible or auditable setting without teammates hearing the details.
If you make a mistake
Correct it and move on.
For example:
"Sorry, I phrased that badly. You only need to tell me what support you need."
Young people do not need adults to be perfect. They need adults to be calm and respectful.
Build confidence before the moment arrives
Clubs can include period support in coach induction, welfare training and seasonal briefings.
Knowing the products, facilities and referral route in advance is far easier than improvising when a distressed young swimmer asks for help.
Remember
Confidence comes from having a simple role:
listen, meet the immediate practical need, protect privacy and signpost anything outside your expertise.
Related LTM content
- How to Talk to a Swimmer About Periods
- Parents, Carers, Swimmers & Privacy
- Periods & Swimming: What Every Coach or Teacher Should Know
- Period-Friendly Club Checklist
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