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Quick answer
Not being understood can feel upsetting, but it does not mean your symptoms or worries are not real.
It is not your fault
Sometimes adults are busy, distracted or do not understand straight away. That can feel frustrating, but it is not your fault.
Try again clearly
Use simple words like: “I still need help,” “My symptoms are affecting school,” or “This pain is stopping me from normal things.”
Use notes if it helps
A short symptom note can help explain what happens, when it happens and how strong it feels.
Tell another trusted adult
If one person is not helpful, tell someone else: another parent, carer, relative, teacher, school nurse or doctor. Keep speaking up if something feels wrong.
Words you can use
- Can we talk in private?
- I need some help.
- Can you help me with the next step?
- I think I need a trusted adult.
Ask Luma
You could ask: “What can I do if an adult does not understand?”