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Quick answer
It is okay to want support and privacy at the same time. You can choose what details you share and who you tell.
Ask to talk alone
A quiet conversation can make things feel much easier. You could say: “Can we talk in private?” or “Can we go somewhere quiet?”
Say what you want kept private
You can ask the adult not to announce things to others. Try: “Please do not tell everyone,” or “I only want a few people to know.”
Be specific about what you need
You might want a bathroom pass, a place to change, spare clothes, a bag, or help contacting home.
Privacy should not stop you getting help
If you are in a lot of pain, bleeding heavily or feeling unwell, getting help matters most. A good adult should try to protect your privacy while keeping you safe.
Words you can use
- Can we talk in private?
- I need some help.
- Can you help me with the next step?
- I think I need a trusted adult.
Ask Luma
You could ask: “How do I ask for privacy about my period?”