Talking to a coach about periods might feel awkward, especially if you've never done it before. You don't have to explain your whole cycle, and you don't have to tell everyone why you need a break.
Choose the words that suit you
You could say:
- “Can I use the toilet before we start?”
- “I need a minute to sort out my kit.”
- “I've got period cramps. Could I have a break?”
- “I'm worried I've leaked. Is there somewhere private I can change?”
- “Can I speak to you or the team manager away from everyone else?”
If speaking aloud feels hard, a quiet message before training may work if your club uses an appropriate communication channel. Follow club rules for contacting coaches and keep a parent or carer involved where required.
What if I don't want to tell my coach?
You may feel more comfortable talking to another coach, a designated welfare officer, a team manager or a parent or carer who can help pass on what you need. You can request practical help without sharing personal details with all the adults at the club.
What a supportive response looks like
A good coach listens, helps you find a toilet or safe changing space, responds calmly to a leak or period pain, and does not share your private information with teammates. They should not comment on your body, demand to see a period tracking app or pressure you to discuss periods publicly.
If a request involves an important health or safety concern, the coach may need to involve appropriate adults in line with club procedures. They should explain this sensitively where possible.
Remember
Asking for help isn't letting your team down. You deserve practical support and respect.