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Quick answer

Tell a trusted adult when your period starts and you need help, when bleeding or pain worries you, when you feel unwell, or any time you feel scared, unsure or not able to cope on your own.

Why telling someone early helps

You do not have to wait until things feel really bad. A trusted adult can help you get period products, clean clothes, pain support, school help, rest, reassurance or medical advice. Even if you are not sure whether something is serious, telling someone early can make things easier.

If your first period starts unexpectedly, if you leak through clothes, if cramps are making it hard to concentrate, or if you feel worried about what is happening in your body, that is a good reason to tell someone.

Good reasons to tell a trusted adult today

  • You need practical help You need pads, period underwear, spare underwear, pain relief, a hot water bottle, a change of clothes or help getting home.
  • You feel worried or confused You are not sure if what is happening is normal, you feel upset, or you simply do not want to handle it alone.
  • Your symptoms are affecting your day Pain, heavy bleeding, sickness, dizziness or tiredness are making school, sport, sleep or normal activities harder.
  • Something feels wrong You are bleeding very heavily, the pain feels much stronger than usual, or you feel faint, very unwell or frightened.

Who counts as a trusted adult?

A trusted adult is someone safe, kind and helpful. That could be a parent, step-parent, carer, grandparent, older sibling, aunt, uncle, teacher, form tutor, school nurse, sports coach or another adult who listens well.

If the first person you tell cannot help right away, you can tell another adult. Asking again is okay.

Words you can use

  • “My period started and I need some help.”
  • “I have cramps and I’m finding it hard to cope.”
  • “I think I bled through my clothes.”
  • “Something about my period does not feel right.”

Remember: asking for help is not being dramatic. It is a sensible, strong thing to do. Ask Luma prompt idea

Try asking: “I’m reading about when should i tell a trusted adult?. Can you help me understand what signs I should look out for and what I could say to a trusted adult?”